A pregnancy can mean so much more to a woman and couple than what first meets the eye.
It represents family, the future, becoming parents. It is the beautiful messy result of 2 souls coming together, to make a new one.
When there is a loss, it can bring up feelings of guilt...
‘Did I drink too much coffee?’
‘What if I hadn’t exercised the other day’
‘Did my stress cause my miscarriage?’
Pregnancy loss brings grief.
Add this guilt and grief to the well meaning words from others, and its no wonder that women and couples do not openly share or discuss what they are going through.
What can you say / do instead?
🌸 "I can’t imagine what you are feeling"
🌸 "I want you to know that I am thinking of you"
🌸 "Is there anything that I can help with?"
🌸 Acknowledge the loss
🌸 Don’t assume anything
🌸 Appreciate that this is now a part of this persons life story – the pain does not go away with a subsequent pregnancy.
🌸 If the loss involves a long recovery, drop off meals without asking, or provide other acts of service to show you care.
If you or a loved one has been or is going through pregnancy loss, have a look at these organisations who provide support, resources and services to help you honour the life of your baby, and support your loved one.